Many of the things that we once found precious, like working from home and spending more time with our partner or family, can be more difficult than we thought. Being stuck in a routine, lack of space for oneself, or little time for friends or for ourselves can be some of the consequences of spending too much time with our partner.
Bright Side, understanding that there are many couples going through something like this, has prepared a series of tips to renew “the air” in the relationship and help couples enjoy spending more time together.
How To Renew Love In A Relationship?
Don’t Neglect Family And Friends
Being in a couple offers a feeling of comfort and, therefore, other relationships can be neglected. This can generate “codependency”, wanting everything to revolve around the couple to the point of mutually isolating each other from their social, professional, and family life.
Some of the characteristics of a person with a tendency to be codependent are fear of loneliness, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, panic about breaking up, and much more.
So that this does not reach a harmful level, such as communicating only with that person, putting aside personal dreams, work goals, and other effective relationships, it is necessary to recognize this in time and not leave everything else that is also an important part of life behind.
Instead Of Assuming, It’s Better To Ask
It is good to reflect on what our partner needs, what can help them and how we can make them a little happier. But many times, we can have the wrong idea of what the other wants or demands, and this can be avoided in a very simple way: by asking.
Say something like “What do you need?” or “What irritates you about me?” or “How can I contribute to your happiness?” It can open up an enriching dialogue for both of you and help you avoid unnecessary arguments.
Try To Understand The Reason Behind Your Boredom
The feeling of being bored is sometimes subtle and it is difficult to recognize whether we are really bored or not. But this feeling can manifest itself in other ways that are easier to identify, such as anger, irritation, or less attraction.
If this begins to happen, a good exercise is to ask ourselves what the internal reasons maybe that make us feel this way and if routine chores or boredom are lurking.
Some solutions for this could be:
- Resuming activities that were liked by both of you and, for some reason, stopped taking place
- Being creative romantically
- Doing nice gestures for each other
- Escaping somewhere for a few days
The ways to break a routine are as varied as one wishes.
Find A Balance Between Time With Your Partner And Time Alone
Spending a lot of time together can lead to sharing activities that perhaps if you had a choice, you would prefer to do separately. This is not due to a lack of affection towards your partner, but because there are things that you simply prefer to do alone or with other people around you.
That is why it is important to find out what things they prefer to do together and whatnot.
Daily household activities like folding clothes, grooming, or taking the dog for a walk can also be ways of being alone for a while. In other words, if physical separation is possible, so much the better.
This will balance the time they spend together and the time they spend apart, and this “distance” will cause the partners to miss each other, bringing excitement to the reunion.
Cope With Bad Situations With Humor
Not only is it important to have fun with friends and family, but it is also a priority to maintain a good mood between you and your partner. This can be achieved by proposing games, walks, and activities.
Even thinking of some simple joke that puts you in a different frame of mind than your normal routine can help. All this breaks the usual repetition that we are used to, bringing positivity to the environment.
What do you think is the healthiest way to divide your time between family, friends, and partners? What activities do you like to do alone and what do you like to do as a couple?
