A broken heart is definitely not the most positive emotion in the world, and sometimes it seems like a new love will heal all pain immediately and forever. But is that really so? We found several really important reasons why you shouldn’t rush into relationships.
Why Should We Never Rush Into Relationships
Before you start dating (or just looking for) a new person, you should always ask yourself a very important question: “What for?”
And if the answer is something like “Oh, I feel so lonely”, you should really reconsider your approach. Learn to enjoy time alone with yourself. It is perfectly normal to feel happy alone.
You don’t need anyone else to be happy. Join a club (yoga, crafts, board games, etc.), start learning a new language, or find a volunteer or charity that makes you happy and satisfied.
Surround yourself with interesting people and your choice will not be based on the fear of feeling lonely.
4. Self-love Deficit Disorder
Another bad answer to the question “What for?” is “I want someone to love me.” Incorrect! No one can love you more than you can love yourself.
It’s not about being selfish or having high self-esteem. It is accepting and loving yourself as you are, with all your flaws and imperfections.
It is learning not to compare yourself to others and not trying to adapt to someone else’s image of you.
This is where Louise Hay’s positive statements will work. You are perfect as you are. And if you let this rule guide you through life, you will find the right person just when you are ready for it.
It may sound terrible, but when you think about it, it’s what we do. We feel comfortable walking around someone’s house or crying on that cute boy’s shoulder.
So we start to think it’s probably HIM … but it’s not. You can take the time to redecorate your home or meet friends who may make you feel better, but don’t make it a reason to rush into new relationships.
2. Old Affections
“It’s time for you to move on.” How often do we hear this in a popular drama? Usually this is where all the trouble starts, because moving on doesn’t mean starting dating someone only to forget about your previous relationships.
It means starting to do something with your life that makes you feel happy and safe (see above).
1. Social Pressure
You are perfectly happy to be alone and you know exactly what you are going to do with your life. But society makes you feel strange.
You feel like you’re missing something when your best friends get married or the characters on your favorite TV show have kids.
Romances end with “and they lived happily ever after,” and you don’t even have a date.
You want to experience it all, and then you rush into a new relationship with a new guy. Just put it on pause for a while. It’s your life that matters, not the TV show.